Written by David Starkey

David specialises in family law and deals with divorce, financial arrangements, Cohabitation disputes and children matters.

David is a member of Resolution which is the national organisation of family lawyers committed to dealing with family problems in a non-confrontational manner. He is also on the Law Society Family Panel.


If you are contemplating divorce or separation from your partner, your first concern will probably be about where your children will live and how they will spend time with both parents. As parents, you know your children best, so you will be best able to consider the effects of your break-up on them and, hopefully, together devise the most suitable living arrangements for your children. Family mediation services, together with Resolution mediators and solicitors, can help you to achieve this outcome.

It is the framework by which the courts use in order to reach their decision.

If you can’t agree upon the arrangements, you can ask the courts to decide the matter by making an application for a Child Arrangements Order. Prior to making any application to the court, it is necessary for the parties to attempt mediation.

The Children Act 1989 is the main piece of legislation dealing with family disputes about children. The Children Act states that the child’s welfare is the paramount consideration when the court consider any question in relation to the upbringing of a child. Therefore, the court will apply what is known as the ‘welfare checklist’ to help it make its decision.

The welfare checklist looks at:

The wishes and feelings of the child (considered in the light of his/her age and level of understanding).

This will normally be determined by the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (CAFCASS) or Social Services, and reported to the court. the court will take into consideration whether or not a child’s wishes and feelings are their own, or whether outside factors may have influenced their decision. The court will balance the views of the parties concerned, including the views of a child who is of an understanding age (normally 9 years of age) and mature enough to form their own opinions.

His/her physical, emotional and educational needs

A child’s emotional needs can be quite difficult to deal with, and the court will consider who is best able to provide for the emotional needs of the child, both short terms and long term.

The likely effect of any change in his/her circumstances

The potential impact of changes to the child’s life will be considered. The courts will aim to make an order that causes the least disruption to a child’s life, however, this will be balanced against the other factors to be considered.

His/her age, sex, background and any characteristics which the court considers relevant

The court will consider specific issues such as race, religion and culture when making a decision about a child. They may also take into consideration the parents hobbies and lifestyle choices if they feel it will impact on the child’s life, either now or in the future.

Any harm which he/she has suffered or is at risk of suffering

The courts will look at the risk of harm to the child, this will be immediate risk of harm as well as the risk of harm in the future. ‘Harm’ includes physical, emotional and mental harm. The courts will decide upon the potential risk of harm to the child in the future and make an order as they feel is appropriate. An order may include safety measures to protect the child.

How capable each parent is of meeting his/her needs

The courts will consider how able each parent is to care for the child and to meet their particular needs. This will be subjective and depend upon the facts and circumstances of each case, the needs of the child and the abilities of the parents concerned.

The range of powers available to the court

The court must weigh up all of the factors under the welfare checklist, and consider all available orders within their discretion. It will then make the best order available that is in the best interests of the child.

The welfare checklist is therefore extremely important when considering where a child should live and how much time they should spend with each parent. It is the framework by which the courts use in order to reach their decision. As a result, it is important to know and understand the welfare checklist prior to making any application to the court regarding your child.


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