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We are often asked if we can recommend any books on a range of topics relating to separation and divorce. We have been asking parents and professionals to let us know of books they have used. Please do let us know if you have a book that helped you –  we hope you find these useful.


101 Questions Answered About Separating With Children Edited by Rebecca Giraud & Bob Greig, Consulting Editor Dr. Angharad Rudkin.

An essential book for anyone navigating a separation or divorce. It addresses in plain English over 100 of the most frequently asked question by parents; it has a comprehensive chapter on domestic abuse; guides and tips for attending online hearings and much more. With contributions by a range of professionals and with reflections from parents this is a good place to start.


DAD – Untold Stories Of Fatherhood Love, Mental Health And Masculinity curated by Elliot Rae

DAD is a deeply moving and inspiring collection of stories that represent diversity of modern fatherhood and seeks to start a conversation that challenges the tradition associated with masculinity.


The Divorce Journal For Kids by Sue Atkins

Separation and divorce are traumatic events for families. This journal is designed to help children express, explore and understand some of the strong emotions that they may be feeling and to help them process the divorce for themselves.


Break-up From Crisis To Confidence by Claire Black

Are you feeling heartbroken at the sudden end of a relationship? Not sure where to turn, or what to do? Are you feeling alone and scared of the future? This book is for you. You don’t have to go through this alone.


The Split. From Break-Up To Break Through by Sara Davison

Reeling from shock, betrayal or a broken heart? Struggling to understand how it went wrong, why it happened to you and what to do now? Feeling confused, overwhelmed or trapped in a loveless marriage? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this book can help you.


How To Have A Healthy Divorce by Paula Hill

How to Have a Healthy Divorce will help you to embrace the reality of the situation, gain more understanding of what went wrong in your marriage and help you handle the rollercoaster of emotions involved in a break up.


Uncoupling – How To Survive And Thrive After Break-Up And Divorce by Sarah Davison

When Sara Davison’s marriage broke down, she felt as though her life was over. It took every ounce of her strength to deal with the daily roller coaster of raw emotions and the practical difficulties that make divorce one of life’s most stressful experiences.


What Every Parent Needs To Know by Margot Sutherland

Dr Sunderland’s acclaimed ideas explain the science behind parenthood, once again securing the title as the greatest educational book for parents of children up to 12 years old.


Divorcing A Narcissist – The Lure, The Loss And The Law by Dr Supriya McKenna & Karin Walker

Separating or divorcing a narcissist or someone who has narcissistic traits can be a difficult, draining experience. This book is written for the spouse of such a personality, to support them step by step through the legal process, as well as through the difficult emotional journey that they’ll be undertaking. It will help you recognise narcissistic behaviour, prime you on what challenges lie ahead and provide practical insights on how to survive the process.


For Kids’ Sake! Practical Support for Separated Parenting by Steph Fattorini & Nicola Withycombe

A valuable resource from the Kids Come First charity. Dealing with divorce or sorting out your separation is difficult for everyone involved. And if you have children, navigating your way through this complex, often unpredictable, journey can prove even more challenging!  You will find lots of useful information and tips for yourself and your children.


The Rock Pool SOS – by Polly Walker

It shows how a simple set of strategies can help us find ‘win-win’ ways forward that address everyone’s needs. The ideas are clear and easy to understand, and the illustrations help to make them even more memorable.


Breaking Upwards –  How To `Manage The Emotional Impact Of Separation by Charlotte Friedman.

As Charlotte Friedman shows it doesn’t have to be that way. A former family barrister, Friedman decided to move from the courtroom to the therapist’s chair in order to help people manage the emotional fall-out of divorce.


The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read by Philippa Perry

In this Sunday Times bestseller, leading psychotherapist Philippa Perry reveals the vital do’s and don’ts of relationships. This is a book for us all. Whether you are interested in understanding how your upbringing has shaped you, looking to handle your child’s feelings or wishing to support your partner, you will find indispensable information and realistic tips in these pages.


Superpowers For Parents by Dr Stephen Briers.

In Superpowers for Parents you’ll uncover the secrets of great parenting and discover how you can get inside the mind of your child to understand why they behave as they do.


Help Your Children Cope With Divorce by Paula Hall

This guide will provide you with clear advice and guidance on how to minimise the impact of your relationship breakdown on your children. Including:
– An explanation of the age-specific issues that children face when they find out their family is breaking up
– Professional comment, stories and quotes from children
– Checklists and case studies


Untying The Knot by Kate Gunn

When you are going through separation or divorce it can often feel like there is no way through the pain and conflict. No small light twinkling at the end of the tunnel. Will it always feel this bad? How will you heal the hurt of your children? Will this damage them for life? How will you cope with increased costs and reduced money? Where will you live? Will you ever find peace and happiness again?


Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive by Robert E Emery.

Robert Emery applies his 25 years experience as a researcher therapist and mediator to offer parents a new road map to divorce. Dr. Emery shows how our powerful emotions and the way we handle them shape how we divorce – and whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run.


Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two by Islolina Ricci.

Isolina Ricci’s Mom’s House, Dad’s House has been the gold standard for inspiring and supporting divorcing and remarrying parents for more than twenty-five years.


Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an Ex Who Drives You Crazy by Jeffery P Whittman.

This empowering guide is an inspirational roadmap for the millions of men and women navigating a rocky relationship with a former spouse-while trying to maintain a healthy atmosphere for their child.


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