Written by Mike Flinn

Mike has over 20 years of experience as a counsellor, he works with adults, couples, young people, and families going through separation and divorce. He worked for Couple Counselling Scotland before moving to Shrewsbury to work with Relate. He now works in private practice.



Some wise words from Mike on an issue that comes up time and time again for victims of domestic abuse.

It’s extremely difficult to prove you’re telling the truth. All you can do is continue to tell the truth. Remember there are two sides to every story, and if you are in court, it’s the judges responsibility to establish proof, with beyond reasonable doubt, or on the balance on probability.

Try to keep calm if others aren’t telling the truth and practice calming exercises (e.g. mindfulness). If you are in court and you fee you are getting frustrated then ask for a recess to calm down, and say why, calmly and clearly…


Additional Resources 

Recommended books for parents on Co-Parenting

If you are facing court alone many people have found Lucy Reed’s book, ‘Family Court Without A Lawyer’ particularly useful.

This article is useful if you are going to court for the first time –  Preparing For Court.

Also, this one written by a member of our Family Law Panel, ‘No one believes me – how do I prove I am telling the truth?’.

Some courts offer a free ‘Support Through Court’ service. Volunteers offer support and guidance before, during, and after court. They ensure that those facing court alone feel prepared and supported in accessing justice.



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