Written by Adele Ballantyne

Adele has an MA in Relationship Therapy in 2011 and is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). She has experience in helping a wide variety of individuals, couples and families. Her consultancy work with organisations includes contracts with hospitals and NHS Trust departments.


When we are stressed or feeling anxious making decisions becomes even more difficult. Adele has some useful tips on the importance of taking your time.


It can be really easy to make a hasty decision, especially during an argument. When making decisions, remember that one of you is coping with a bombshell, even if you think it’s been obvious for ages that things are not OK. Take time when making important decisions – there is no hurry to decide in the moment. Waiting a week or two and having conversations will really help in the long run. Often hasty decisions are made when feelings are running high. We often see things differently one we have calmed down.


Additional Resources

Recommended books for parents going through separation and divorce.

You maybe interested to read Adele’s article ‘Is It Over’.

You may also find our Useful Links page helpful.






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