Co-Directors Rebecca Giraud & Bob Greig

What We Do

We support parents who are looking to make the best decisions for their family during separation and divorce.

We offer a live-chat facility to parents via the websites and an email exchange service via our contact page. Both are free to use. Our principal service to parents is delivered via our national network of legal and mediation experts – The Family Law Panel (see below). This gives parents a chance to discuss their options for moving forward with a professional by e-mail or telephone.

We commission and publish professionally written advice articles to support our client group on key issues around the law, mediation, housing, finance and general parenting.

We share evidence-based research in an accessible format. Dr Angharad Rudkin of Southhampton University provides the summaries.

101 Questions Answered About Separating With Children

In January 2019 we published ‘101 Questions Answered About Separating With Children’. The book is born out of the calls and enquiries received every day over the last 10 years. Each question has been answered by some of the leading family mediators and solicitors in the country, many of whom are members of our Family Law Panel. Alongside the legal help is an array of tips and insights on how to handle the psychological impact of separation, what it means for the children involved and where parents can turn for further help. Find out more here…

“This book is steeped in the reality of putting children first. The contributors’ humanity leaps out, as does their desire to demystify the processes”. The Family Law Gazette 2019


We have a once in a generation opportunity to shape how family law can work better for families in the future as the government have issued a consultation paper entitled A Review of the Child Arrangements Programme in which they pose a number of questions and seek responses by the end of September 2019. Over the last ten years we have heard calls from parents desperate to see the system improve to better meet the needs of families. We believe that by making a direct approach to families and opening it up to all members of the public, we will be able to provide the Judiciary with an authoritative view of what you the public consider to be the most important changes which need to take place. The deadline for responses is 23rd September – you can find the survey HERE.

What We Don’t Do

Discriminate – we help parents regardless of background, ethnic group, sexual orientation or family set-up.

The fathers’ rights thing or favour the mother’s rights over that of the father.

Align with any political party.

Take commission from any of the family law professionals we work with.

Provide full legal services free of charge.

Who We Are

Rebecca Giraud, Director

Rebecca joined OnlyMums in 2009 having returned from working on a range of social development projects with marginalized communities in Southern Africa, the South Pacific and subsequently in the UK. Having worked with vulnerable families for over 15 years, she recognised the need and value of giving parents access to accurate professional on-line support especially victims of domestic abuse. She also volunteers for the Exeter PSU and co-edited ‘101 Questions Answered About Separating With Children’. Rebecca lives on Dartmoor with her family.


Bob Greig, Director

Bob founded OnlyMums & OnlyDads in 2007 having recognised a lack of dependable on-line information and support for families going through divorce and separation.  After graduating from King’s College, London and prior to founding OM/OD, he worked for 16 years as a senior property manager for the Church of England and King Sturge. Bob is often asked to talk to the media on issues around fatherhood and single parenting. He co-edited ‘101 Questions Answered About Separating With Children’. He lives just outside Totnes with his two daughters.


Our Advisors

Our advisory group support us in integrating the work of our family law and mediation professionals with other key parent support organisations. They ensure we deliver a high quality service and one that reflects the demands of the parents and other professionals who use our organisation.

Norman Hartnell (Chairman) – The Family Law Company.
Melanie Carew – Cafcass.
Dalia Ben-Galim – Gingerbread.
Dr Angharad Rudkin – Southampton University.
Claire Easterman –  Resolution.
Mary Shaw – David Gray Solicitors.

The OnlyMums & OnlyDads Family Law Panel

The Family Law Panel is a UK-wide network of leading family law mediators and solicitors. These professionals all offer a range of pricing options and expertise. They all follow a code of practice that promotes a non-confrontational approach to family problems and support the work of OnlyMums & Dads.

You can access the panel here –  it’s easy to use.

The panel consists of specialists in Domestic Abuse, Children and Legal Aid.

The Westminster Dialogues

We hold the annual “Westminster Dialogues” (sponsored by Dr. Sarah Wollaston, MP) which raise issues of concern around family law with solicitors, mediators, politicians and those organisations that can effect change.

Previous Dialogues have covered domestic abuse (#WhataboutHenry), support for single fathers, and alternatives to court. Most recently we explored the benefits of introducing an early triage system into family courts with Sir James Munby, former President of the Family Division.

Our History

OnlyDads was established by Bob in 2008 as a web-based forum for men going through the family court system. The idea was that men could use the forum and support each other. However, men contacting the website weren’t using the forum and instead were largely seeking some legal support on their case.

By the end of the first year, and with more mums contacting OnlyDads than dads, it became clear that something different was needed. The bringing together of a “mums side” to the work was logical and it allowed us to set up an organisation that encouraged mums and dads to work together.

Rebecca became a director of the newly expanded OnlyMums & OnlyDads in 2009 and we began managing two websites under the structure of one organisation. This has now become the key focus of our work; that we are there for both parents.

OnlyMums & OnlyDads is a registered not-for-profit Community Interest Company (Company no. 8293558)

We hold the Government’s Help and Support for Separated Families (HSSF) mark, demonstrating that our services support parents to work together to resolve disputes and help them focus on the interest of their children.

Three Year Plan

To offer support to an additional 12,000 parents going through divorce/separation by:

  • By providing up-to-date and relevant family law and mediation information online and through the wide distribution of our publication ‘101 Questions Answered About Separating With Children’.
  • Developing the sharing of evidence based research to a wider audience.
  • Continuing to promote the service offered by Family Law Panel.
  • Continuing to expand our live chat and e-mail support facilities.
  • Produce a series of short films looking at mental health in the context of divorce and separation.
  • Continuing to build on our relationships with key national organisations working with families.

How are we funded?

We do not receive any government grants or core funding but rely on:

Family Law Panel membership fees

Book Sales

You can find out more about how to support our work here.

Media Coverage

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